Relax xxx

Well our little Ollie certainly woke with a spring in his step Friday morning.

He bounced over to me and pretty much sang,

“ Do you know what I did last night Mummy? I read the whole of my book and I didn’t pee my pants!”

He was so happy about it and what a lovely, positive way to start the day!

It got me to thinking, SMART goals in every day life. Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time bound.

I’ve heard from different avenues ( mainly Navy Seals) recently to start the day by making my bed. It’s a duvet, a fluffy blanket and a silky pillow, so this is not difficult or time consuming.

The idea of making the bed is a sense of discipline and if you start the day by achieving something you are on a positive vibe. It certainly looks nice, but a bit of a task for the boys who both sleep on the top bunk and can’t reach it yet so I get them to straighten their teddies.

So often we try to be super parent, super employee, super partner, super friend and super family member that we are left deplete and feeling like we are spinning too many plates and it is all going to come crashing down around us.

Maybe we are setting the bar too high?

What do I want for my children? For them to be happy, healthy and kind. They are most definitely that. The house isn’t clean (it is hygienic), their clothes aren’t ironed, I haven’t enrolled them in 100 different classes, they do spend hours on their computers, but they are still everything Lee and I want them to be. The other evening at the school disco Ollie gave 50p to the class bully because he hadn’t been given any money and Ollie didn’t want him to miss out on the tuck shop. I nearly crushed the bejesus out of that boy hugging and crying all over him. Just what every 6 year old wants their Mum to do at the school disco pick up!

What do I want from my work? To shut the door behind me each evening and believe I have genuinely helped people and made a difference. Well my managers and my colleagues certainly enable me to do that. I can’t always keep up with time constraints, but I do the best I can, so I need to relax in the knowledge that I am doing what is expected of me.

I never seem to have any time, but with the support of my lovely Lee I make time for family and friends. This has been made so much easier by realising how blessed I am with the handful of true friends I have, why waste time searching for new ones, when I have been gifted with the ones I have?

Lee and I are out on our first date since we moved to Weston-super-Mare nearly 3 years ago. Tonight I get to spend quality time with my best friend and soul mate and snog on the beach like we’re teenagers even if it’s raining, in my mind I would look like Kirsten Dunst having her first upside down kiss with Spider-Man in a storm.

Just stop! Breathe! Take time to enjoy the present. Make every day count and most importantly enjoy it. Why be on a treadmill to obtain perfection which may never be achievable? Happiness and kindness is true beauty, not your dress size.

Oh gosh, I seem to be rambling. Well I think you get the gist!

Remember, you can allow yourself to be happy just for getting through the night without peeing your bed and then making it!

Love and hugs, kisses and wishes!